Thursday, September 15, 2005

Married


I remember it well. I was wondering aloud, by the lake side, if Fiance #4 (now my husband) should be the one I would marry. (My friends had dubbed me the Original Runaway Bride two fiances ago). He was there, too. Reassuring me. He told me that he would "give me a life better than I could give myself."So I married him. I thought about that day as I scrubbed the the toilet today. And mopped the coffee stains from the kitchen floor. And vaccumed up ground-in Goldfish crackers out of the living room carpet. And unloaded/loaded/unloaded/loaded the dishwasher. And made the bed, once the dog had finally finished napping on it. And put a screaming baby to bed. And felt disconcerted when I called him to find out that he'd had a carefree, unattached lunch at Bergamo's while I was lucky to get Mrs. Paul's beer-battered fish filets.

And indeed I will never know what life I would've given myself.

But marriage is thus: tomorrow, all will be forgotten, forgiven. He will let me sleep an extra hour, and make me coffee. And he will go to his office to do trivial, menial things, all the while pondering the motorcycles, flight lessons, and beach condos that embodied the former plans of the once single man.

I know that marriage doesn't necessarily mean foregoing one's dreams. But they're so much easier to lose when you cease to live for yourself...

2 Things not left unsaid:

faeryprincess said...

Why does being with someone mean that you no longer have your own dreams and your own life. (Just something that I have always wondered.)

Calvin said...

I think you just have to someone that can stand by your dreams and help nurture your ideas. You can still have an identity!You can still have passion! You dont have to be dry and stale! Live!! Great site. :)