Last night, Grey's Anatomy really made me think. In this episode, a man underwent plastic surgery in order to get big manly pecs to impress his girlfriend. (Incidentally, the girl had just previously gotten a buff personal trainer named Lars.) The man explained to the doctor that if you really love someone, you sometimes have to "find out what they're into, and make it happen." You have to make "a grand gesture" to show them that you're willing to go the distance for them. I find his case totally superficial, but the "grand gesture" concept still intrigues me.
What is my "grand gesture?" I wondered. What would someone have to do to show that they really know me enough to know what I want out of life?
What would YOU consider the "grand gesture" that someone could do for you?
Friday, November 17, 2006
The Grand Gesture
Imparted by Southern Girl at 3:02 PM
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3 Things not left unsaid:
My grand gesture would simply be to cook me dinner, and perhaps the next evening take me to a brahms chamber music concert featuring some of my favorite performers.
I suspect that there is a number of such 'grand gestures' which one would regard as 'the grand gesture'..
It seems likely that one of these will be the 'grandest', but how one can figure out that 'grandest' seems a question that has no answer..
If one regards 'only' the case of the 'grand' gesture (which may or may not be the 'grandest'), then one enters the 'mirror-world' of reflection on what you desire about your own desires.. here, one faces not so much what it is that one desires, but what one desires desiring..
A famous paradox is 'just next door', for my own desired desire, (the necessary characteristic of a 'grand gesture' from my viewpoint, is that it ) must be a 'desire' that is satisfied before it exists; the 'surprise'...
Such a 'grand gesture', signalling that the 'other' person has, some way or other, perceived a 'desire' of mine of which I was not conscious.. some how detected what it is that I will adore when I see it.. this is what I desire...
So, bar this brief note on the impossibility of my stating what my 'grand gesture' would be (except 'via' the somewhat ugly use of meta-speak), I cannot say what it (or they, for they are many) would or will be...
I just hope that the 'surprise' doesn't end up being that I never experience another such 'gesture'..
Worse again, that I never give any one that 'grand gesture experience' again...
K
I think my grand gesture would perhaps start with flowers delivered to my door; I've been given flowers before, but never actually delivered. And not to be forgotten is the little note with a profound little saying wedged into the middle, the thing I will keep long after the flowers are dead.
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